What messages are you holding onto? Which ones would youlike to let go of? Maybe they are messages from your past, from friends, family, or teachers. They might be ones you have grown up with, heard in movies or songs, or read in books. The messages we tell ourselves are important. They can affect our self esteem, and influence how we see ourselves and others. One of the best gifts you can give yourself is the gift of new messages--re-written to help you move forward.
For example, this client has done the hard work of identifying negative messages and re-writing them to make them positive and authentic:
"You have a mental illness. You do this for attention/manipulation" became "I have lots of strengths that have been built up by overcoming my challenges with my mental illness. I am a survivor."
"You are confused" bacame "I was or a while. Finding yourself is a process though, for anyone, not only people of the transgender community."
"You don't want people to see you that way, do you?" became "I want to be authentic. I want people to see me for who I am. I am me. I am enough."
"Let's face it, you are not a man, you are a girl" became "My parts don't define who I am. I am a man. I am ME."
This process can be challenging, but it is worth it. In this client's words: "I am worth the work."